With the New Year comes new hope and often New Year Resolutions. Did you make any resolutions for 2013? Or are you like me in hesitating in making any resolutions because they usually fail by February anyways.
Resolutions fail not because they are a bad idea, but because we go about it backwards. We look at what’s wrong in our lives and create a goal, like losing weight or getting organized, to counteract the wrong in hopes to become happier. While that strategy can work in some cases, it is challenging to sustain and often doesn’t produce the happiness we had expected.
By starting with end result – the happiness, prosperity, or peace we are seeking – we open the door to more opportunities to experiencing that feeling and therefore more successful!
Here are a few tips I follow to create Resolutions for Real Change in my life:
1. Listen to Deeper Desires – What is it that you really want in your life? One way to figure that out is to take the resolutions you often make and ask the question “What will that provide?” With each time you ask that question, you dig deeper to your true desires. I recommend 3-5 rounds to get to the heart of what you really want. When I dig deeper to my resolution of losing weight, I discovered the desire to be energized about life.
2. Declare your Commitment – Once you discover what you really want, you can declare a commitment to creating that desire in your life in 2013. A commitment inspires you into action. A commitment doesn’t require perfection, but simply the willingness to get into action regardless of past performance. My Commitment is A Life Full of Energy.
3. Get into Action – With an inspiring commitment, now it’s time to get into action, any action that supports your commitment. Brainstorm a list of aligned actions to encourage variety and flexibility, which leads to greater success over time. Taking simple actions every day in support of your commitment will allow you to create what you really want for your life. With a Commitment to a Life Full of Energy, I can exercise, socialize with friends, go out dancing or Zumba, or sing along with the car radio.
4. Create Community – With any sustained change, it requires a support team to hold you accountable and encourage you when your commitment fades, as it commonly does. To be most effective, be specific with how each person can support you. Will it be asking for encouraging words every day? Will it be inviting a friend to join you in creating a similar commitment? While it can seem vulnerable to ask for help, we succeed that much faster, that much greater when we include those around us.
5. Celebrate Small Successes – Celebration is critical to success and satisfaction as a whole. If we continue to strive for the next goal without celebrating and acknowledging the progress made, we don’t recognize our growth and are often left still feeling “not enough.” Celebrating can be simple with a manicure, or even FREE with a Shout-Out on Facebook or 5-second Dance Party with a friend. Celebration often provides the needed inspiration to keep your commitment alive.
As you step into 2013 with a renewed sense of hope and commitment to change, remember that real change is like a roller coaster with highs and lows. While the journey may be simple, it may not be easy. Show yourself compassion when you make mistakes. A sense of humor can help too!
May 2013 be a Year of Desires Fulfilled!